This 2.5 hour video program teaches parents, educators, and caregivers how to Emotion Coach children in 5 simple steps. By increasing emotional awareness and communication skills, this program improves your emotional responsiveness and, in turn, creates emotionally intelligent children. Recorded before a live audience in Seattle, the videos are divided into 6 chapters that each contain an informative discussion from Drs. John and Julie Gottman, along with invaluable “Try This” exercises that are outlined in the accompanying parent workbook. After completing the program you’ll have a good understanding of what emotional intelligence is, why it’s important, and how to use the 5 key steps to help establish a solid emotional foundation for your child.
About Drs. John and Julie Gottman
Emotion Coaching is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research on emotional intelligence. Dr. John Gottman studied families for over twenty years to learn which kids were developing successfully and which were not. He measured how well the children performed in school, observed how well they related to their peers, and interviewed them to see how appropriately they behaved socially and how they related to their parents. His team kept finding the same results: children who were Emotion Coached were more successful as adults on measures like peer friendships, gainful employment, and academic performance than were children parented in other ways. Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on parenting issues. To read Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s full bios, click here.
About Emotion Coaching
Without good information and the right skills, parenting can feel overwhelming. Parents often wonder: “What is one thing I could do for my child that would make a difference both now and in the future?” The answer, found after more than twenty years of research, is to build your child’s emotional intelligence. This means helping kids understand their emotions by recognizing what they are feeling and why. To do this, parents need to teach their children to address feelings in constructive ways so they can eventually regulate their own behavior. As children mature, the ability to manage emotions helps them navigate social relationships, maximize intellectual success, and develop confidence. That’s the key: to provide a child with skills that set them up for positive social and emotional development – in childhood and beyond. Dr. John Gottman named these skills Emotion Coaching, a term that emerged in 1990 after 20 years of research on relationships, families, and parenting styles, and they are fundamental in creating respectful, emotionally healthy, successful kids.
Successful parenting begins in your heart, and then continues on a moment-to-moment basis by engaging your children when feelings run high, when they are sad, angry or scared. The heart of parenting is being there in a particular way when it really counts.
Dr. John Gottman’s research has shown that Emotion Coached children:
- Perform better academically
- Have fewer behavioral problems
- Have fewer infectious illnesses
- Are more emotionally stable
- Are more resilient
- Can focus attention and motivate themselves
At the end of this program, you will be able to:
- Understand the importance of Emotional Intelligence
- Learn how to recognize, respond to, and validate what your child is feeling
- Learn how to be an effective Emotion Coach using the Five Steps of Emotion Coaching with kids of any age
- Discover ways to express understanding and empathy
- Learn how to set limits and problem solve with children
How Emotion Coaching Works
Some approaches to modifying child behavior fail to address the feelings beneath that behavior. It’s easy to forget that emotions are an essential survival mechanism, nature’s way of guiding us through life. They help us learn to trust our perceptions, determine our safety, understand our needs, and make meaning of our experience. Emotions are meant to be felt, and acknowledging them is crucial to well-being.
But how people feel about emotions affects how well they parent. They may love their children deeply, and yet continually dismiss or criticize certain feelings, setting the stage for their kids to become alienated from themselves and others. This is why Emotion Coaching is so important: it provides parents and caregivers with a five-step method to support healthy social and emotional development – in childhood and beyond.
Read a recent article on the importance of Emotion Coaching here.